Q: I recently started dating a wonderful man who has been very honest with me about his current living situation. They have been living together for a little more than a year, and when they decided to break-up, he felt uncomfortable asking her to leave because her son goes to the school around the corner. He tells me they sleep in different rooms and as soon as they move out, I can move in. But the fact that they are still there makes me very uncomfortable. Should I continue this relationship or wait until his ex and her son are out of the picture? A: Those are my two choices? Continue a shady relationship or wait for him? How big of a red flag do you want? Her son can go to the same school from another address.
What happens if you must live with your ex? This can be an absolute emotional nightmare!! Especially if you are still in love with your ex.
guy is getting divorced. He still lives in the same house as his soon-to-be ex. I totally feel you. It’s like relationship limbo when you’re dating a divorcing man.
No good. Keyword: were. Would you be comfortable being with a man who still lived with their ex? This is based on a woman I know who has been more than ok with dating a guy who still lives with his former longtime girlfriend. Still, plans to move. They get along well. While his new girlfriend may be rolling with the punches, I thought their situation was interesting enough to share.
There are women who date guys who live with exes who are still emotionally attached. How long am I supposed to sit around and wait for him to move out? I really like him. Honestly, I love him and he knows that. We have great times together, but the only problem is him leaving his situation. At times I get frustrated because I want to be able to go to his house and enjoy those moments together.
There are also women who date men who live with exes who seemingly have moved on and have their own new relationship to tend to.
WOULD YOU DATE A GUY THAT STILL LIVES WITH HIS EX-WIFE?
While there may be several reasons for the cohabitation such as finance, limited real estate options, previous obligations etc. I posed this question to a few of my friends to get some personal insight and the conversation that followed was pretty conclusive. Here it is.
He’s still emotionally committed to her in this way, because she triggered this in him.
When you’re in a relationship with someone, it’s rarely just with them. That can be a really incredible experience where you gain new friends and maybe even family, but it can also be tricky if there are people in that group who your partner has a complicated relationship with, like an ex. First of all, is it even possible for exes to be just friends? Well, I can tell you from personal experience that it absolutely is. One of my very best friends is an ex, who is now also really close with my current partner.
There is no jealousy because my partner knows that we are totally platonic, and that comfort came about after a series of frank and honest conversations. Plus, we all hang out a lot and he was able to see that my actions matched my words. Here’s what the experts say you need to ask and what to look out for that might spell trouble in the relationship. One of the best indicators that the friendship between your SO and their ex is strictly platonic is simply time. But it is worth noting that boundaries are what’s most important when it comes to having an ex in your SO’s life.
Depending on who ended things, your partner may still have some lingering feelings for their ex, or vice versa.
My Boyfriend Is Friends With His Ex Wife On Facebook
She and I do not get along.
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Of course, hearing all of this literally on the first day we met definitely threw me for a loop. I’m one of those people who wipes their hands clean of past relationships and gets rid of everything their ex ever touched. I couldn’t wrap my mind around why he was friends with her, what it meant or even if it meant anything at all. I was at a loss, so I decided to play it by ear. She’s one of his oldest and dearest friends, and who am I to get in the way of that?
I know you guys are probably reading this thinking, “This girl is not only stupid, but also crazy,” but just hear me out on this one. He never compares me to her, he rarely brings her up. They’re just friends, like any other friends. Realize that they ended things, and they’ve moved on. It all starts with trust.
For sure it’s going to be weird in the beginning, but relationships on their own are kind of weird in the beginning. As you two date for longer and build that trust, it’s really up to you if you’re going to be bothered by the situation. I know it’s a tough thing to get the hang of, but here are some tips on how to accept if your boyfriend is still friends with his ex while you’re building your own relationship with each other.
My Boyfriend Still Hangs With His Ex. What Should I Do?
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What if the man or woman you liked was still living with their ex for whatever If I’m dating someone I should be able to go to his place at some.
I’m in love with a guy who has three children and who has had a live-in partner for five years. They broke up, but the family of the girl still doesn’t know that they are not in a relationship anymore, and so they still live together. This girl is still trying to work on their relationship that he says is over. She cheated on him thrice already. Should I continue my relationship with this guy? The first words in your letter are, “I’m in love. In fact, your emotions might be clouding your ability to think clearly and look out for yourself.
The fact that your guy is a father shouldn’t be a deterrent to a new relationship, but this whole scenario sounds fishy to me. It does to you, too, or you wouldn’t be writing to me. Even though you love him, I strongly recommend that you give him and this situation some space unless and until their arrangement changes. Ask yourself how much longer you could handle playing second fiddle to this so-called “ex” — and why you should even try.
If he’s into you in any sort of serious way, one of them has to move out.
How to Ease the Pain of Living With an Ex After a Breakup
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DEAR ABBY: I have been dating my boyfriend for two years. There is only one issue: He still lives with his ex-girlfriend from 10 years ago. She infringes on my time with him — has him run her errands, drive her around.
I rolled my eyes. It was a question I got every time I mentioned that I was currently living with my ex-boyfriend in a small, one-bedroom apartment. I was 24 years old and had recently relocated to Los Angeles for grad school. The spark was long gone. We wondered whether we were too young to settle — or to settle down. And we naively decided that Garrett following me from our hometown of Cincinnati to LA would help us find answers. Two months, two thousand miles, and a few time zones later, we realized our time was up.
The catch was, we had signed a one-year lease, and neither of us could afford the place on our own.